Navigating through the therapeutic world is a difficult task. It takes time and patience to search online and find someone who seems like they might be a good fit for you and your partner. Below are some things to consider:
A therapist’s theoretical orientation (i.e., the approach they take in therapy) may or may not be compatible with your needs. Matching theory to your situation is not always required, but it can improve the therapeutic experience if both people are on the same page about how change occurs. Further, different theories put different emphases on treatment goals and personal issues that may come up in therapy. For example, some treatment approaches place more emphasis on behavior change than on exploring emotions.
How Many Times Should You Attend Couples Therapy Session?
How long should couples therapy last? The answer to that question depends on the problems you are trying to address. If both partners would like to work on improving their communication, it is likely they can achieve this in six to twelve months. If the couple is working through infidelity or domestic violence, treatment may take longer than one year.
Benefits of Relationship Therapy
Increased understanding of the dynamics within the relationship; heightened awareness about how you and your partner make each other feel; better communication skills; improved conflict resolution skills; increased intimacy, both emotionally and physically. Some couples find that they can maintain these changes even after treatment is over.
Many relationship problems are chronic and therefore do not resolve quickly or easily. Some couples may require several years of therapy to learn more adaptive coping skills and uncover the root of their relational struggles. For these kinds of problems, you should consider a longitudinal approach to treatment -one in which you return periodically for booster sessions with your therapist over an extended period.
When is the right time to seek therapy? A good rule of thumb is when one or both partners think they would benefit from help with their relationship. If you are contemplating divorce, it’s a good idea to start therapy early on in the process so you can learn skills that will hopefully make your marriage stronger and more resilient in the long run.